I know most of you have heard of Brian Tracy, and I want to talk about how applicable his ideas are. Have you ever seen Brian Tracy’s Golden Triangle? Let me explain it to you in just a few minutes. You could pay thousands of dollars to attend his seminar, but I’ll give you a brief overview. It’s incredibly awesome and relevant to network connections in your franchise.
The most important thing in your life, which affects everything else, is your self-esteem. Throughout the day, our self-esteem is constantly influenced. How we feel about ourselves at the core determines our actions. It affects whether we feel motivated to make calls, schedule launches and learn sessions, help people, or contribute. Our entire life revolves around our self-perception. Recently, at the age of 65, I’ve undergone a significant transformation in my life. I’ve realized that the more I contribute, the better I feel about myself. It’s astonishing to me that in the past 30 years, during my final push to contribute as much as I can, this realization has dawned on me.
Personally, I was raised by an old-school football coach who didn’t focus on building my self-esteem. That wasn’t his way, and it was not the norm for most parents at that time. Criticism, shame, and other negative approaches were prevalent. Although he was doing his best, he wasn’t focused on building up my self-esteem. In contrast, my wife and I have established a rule in our household for our three youngest children. We don’t criticize them. Of course, it doesn’t mean they can run wild without boundaries. Instead, we look for other ways to reinforce positive behaviors. Our goal is to foster incredibly high self-esteem in our children.
If you are concerned about how you feel about yourself, it’s actually easy to change. Simply affirm to yourself, “I have great value, and I’m willing to offer it.” If you’re not comfortable saying it out loud right now, at least type it in the chat: “I have great value, and I’m willing to offer.”
The second aspect of Brian Tracy’s Golden Triangle is responsibility. Responsibility is essentially our ability to respond to different situations. Let me give you an example. I used to coach a junior golf team, and there was a girl named Sasha on my team for five years. No matter what happened, Sasha always made an excuse for her performance. Rain, wet conditions, wind, or any other factor became an excuse. In my family, we have a phrase that we use when someone starts making excuses: “You don’t want to be like Sasha, do you?” We emphasize the importance of being accountable. If you’re interested in exploring accountability further, I highly recommend Brian Tracy’s book called “No Excuses.”